Thursday, January 30, 2014

The Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men...

---It appears I am not good at keeping promises. I really do have every intention of posting nearly daily on here. I am more focused than ever on my plan and authoring aspirations. However fate again has stepped in to let me know that it's her schedule I live by, not mine. That being said I have the flu. I came home from work Saturday morning with a temp of 101.6 and was shivering uncontrollably. After spending 3 days mostly in bed, I am again up among the living. However my nose is raw and I have a cough that wont stop.
---Good news? Well yes there is some. I am up to 28 lbs lost since I started, which leaves 20 lbs to my goal. I will probably be ordering my made to order corset in the next 10 lbs or so and am very excited. Want to lose weight? Wear a real corset 23 hours a day. I promise the lbs will shed away...
--- Also I plan on making a visit to make in the next couple of weeks. I am getting a makeover and hopefully wont be disappointed with the results. i am a little weary that age may have caught up with me and that I will be embarrassing myself by dolling up and going out. I never could pass it public, as 99% of men that try, however I do have a gender neutral face and no adams apple, so I wasn't a joke either. It will be a big day in my decision to proceed with this plan. Actually it's the only thing that will stop me now.
---Bad news? It's going to snow again, and again, and again... 5 times supposedly in the next 7 days. Never in my life have I wished for a winter to end like I have this one. It's been to cold for too long. Not to mention it's a bitch keeping shaved when you get goose pimples every time you take your clothes off. Oh well, that's a story for another day...


Sunday, January 19, 2014

25 lbs and a broken truck

---I must apologize for the long time between posts. I will say that I had a work week in there, but I could have made a couple of posts. The big thing that happened was my truck broke down. I tend to obsess on such things and spent 2 days working on it (which means I wasn't focused on training). Of course I was expecting the worst... a big repair bill. Happily the cost of repair was only $60 so I am rather pleased.
---In other news I reached the 25 lbs lost goal!! This of course is no small feat. When one starts dieting and exercising, it seems like the end goal can never be achieved. I have an end goal of 46 lbs (I know it's an odd number, but it has meaning to me) which is a chunk of weight. I now believe I can make the last 21 lbs, and do so by last spring.
---I hope to do some shopping this week, and will report on my haul when I finish with it. Until then, have a great day!


Sunday, January 12, 2014

Soooo women wear pants...

---Why shouldn't men be able to wear skirts? Oh and top of the day to you! I hope you are having a great day. This is a topic near and dear to my heart, I hope you enjoy the read. 

 ---Prior to the middle of the 20th century, women had a very limited wardrobe of dresses and skirts. Women had a certain image that they were expected to obtain. Pants weren’t even an option for them during this time period because trousers were for men. Women were expected to wear corsets, which reduced their waist size so much that many were unable to breathe and often fainted. This was considered feminine, and females wore these to distinguish themselves from men. This was the culture of the 1800s. The way that women dressed during this time made them appear to be like dolls, and came across as fragile. Women were perceived as helpless females in frilly dresses, while men were strong and wore masculine pants. Women spent hours getting ready and would put on multiple layers of skirts.  Floor length skirts which picked up debris and constantly got dirty were what females were forced to deal with on a daily basis. Women would have to wear girdles, and hoop skirts, and clothes that weren't too revealing. Petticoats, frilly slips worn under skirts, were yet another hassle in the daily dress for women. Fashion at this time was by no means about comfort, which is partially a reason why women yearned to wear pants.  They were much more convenient, comfortable, and easier to wear than multiple layers of skirts.  At this time, corsets and skirts were feminine and distinctly separated women from men. Women couldn't wear trousers because that would portray females to be almost as equal as males.         
--- This simple piece of clothing has caused much controversy for women over the years. The social and technological changes of the 20th century propelled the movement of it being acceptable for women to wear pants. The act of wearing pants itself is a form of technology because wearing trousers makes almost any task easier than doing the same task in a skirt or dress. The revolution of women wearing pants is important because it traces the history of equality between men and women. This nonverbal communication of clothing changed dramatically when women regularly began wearing pants in the middle to late 1900s. Before the twentieth century, women were technically not allowed to wear pants because it was a masculine item, and they were looked down upon if they decided to wear them. It wasn't until the Second World War that women began wearing trousers out in public, but it still wasn't widely accepted. Finally in the 1960s, society decided that it was about time for it to be socially acceptable for women to wear pants.

---Only it didn't start equality between men and women. Women can still wear skirts, yet men can not wear them. Women can dress as they please, men can not. And please don't use the argument that women's clothes are made to fit their bodies. Like no woman ever stuffed her bra or got breast implants. No women ever wore a padded brief to fill out those jeans. No woman ever wore a corset to get that hourglass shape. 

---Any reasonably enlightened or even logical person should be able to see that there is no good reason why women are ‘allowed’ to wear skirts and men aren't. If you accept that a woman wearing trousers is perfectly normal and acceptable, then what possible objection could you raise to a man wearing a skirt? I think most people accept this argument, accept that people should be free to wear whatever they want, but they still feel the need to qualify this by saying “but I think it looks stupid/*I* wouldn't do it/I find it unattractive when men do”. Reaction to a man wearing a skirt is different to our reaction to a woman wearing one. I've been wondering why that is and I can’t help but feel that it has something do with a residual attachment to illogical norms, despite our professed enlightenment. Women wanting to dress like men is acceptable and understandable, but men wanting to dress like women is perverse and nonsensical. It’s put forward best by Lauren O in this thread:
I think it’s perhaps more likely that it’s easier for society to accept women taking on men’s roles than it is for men to take on women’s roles because women are seen as inferior. A woman wanting to take on men’s roles seems less offensive, because, the reasoning goes, who wouldn't want to be a member of the superior sex? A man wanting to take on women’s roles seems more offensive, because what man would ever want to degrade himself like that?
--- Pants weren't an option to women not that long ago. Your choice of clothes should not be tied to your birth sex. Women have been able to overcome the  gender barriers and win the right to wear whatever they please too... and no one bats an eye. I for one have no plans on waiting for the male gender revolution. I will wear what I want, and not care if you dislike it. However I hope that you do... =)


Saturday, January 11, 2014

Fear of what people think

---Greetings everyone! I am between workout sessions and decided to blog a bit for you. I recently set down and made a list of challenges that I will have to overcome to complete my mission to live as a woman for 3 months. I came up with a few things...

1: Body/mind preparation. This is by far the biggest obstacle for me. Getting from where I was (content, out of shape middle aged guy) to where I want to be is a looooong road. I need to lose weight and a lot of it. I need to eat healthier so I felt better. I need to prepare my skin for obvious reasons. Not only do I have to get to the point my body is ready, but I also have to maintain it. UPDATE: I have lost more than half of the weight I plan too, I have toally turned my diet around and am avoiding GMO's at all cost. And My skin is much smoother and in way better shape than it was.

2: Clothes/footwear and accessories:  So I have done very little in this department other than plan. Basically I cant shop for clothes till I lose my weight and I but my boobs & corset. Getting the proper hourglass shape has to come first, clothes second. I have located the corset I want, and I do mean a real cinch down Victorian made to order corset. In addition thanks to some inventiv drag queens, I have found a chest plate that with nothing more than a scarf around my neck will give me 42D's that you wont be able to tell whether they are real or not. Yes they are a little pricey, but well worth it.

3: Lastly is dealing with the fear of what people think of me: The greatest prison man can live in is the fear of what other ppl think. We often limit our actions through fear of criticism or judgment from others. The reason we care what people think is because we base our identity on their judgments of us, positive or negative. Because we think that part of our identity is how people view us (funny, cool, confident, shy) then we must protect that so that our identity is not affected. Of course, your identity is not what people think of you, it is just…you. You are the only person that matters. If someone stares at me, or snickers as I walk by, I won't care. If I am confident and honest, most ppl will accept me even if I am wearing heels. And if they can't? Well they can get happy in the shoes they got offended in.
---If I am not hurting anyone by what I am doing, then it's too damn bad if they get offended by it. I am a freethinker and I embrace my individuality. Everyone should walk into each new day only trying to impress themselves and then they will find true contentment.
---So this last obstacle? Well it's going to be the easiest for me. I will wear my 42D's like a badge of honor 

Until the next blog my friends...

Friday, January 10, 2014

Why the Anonymity?

---Good morning everyone! I again find myself getting ready for work (yes I work nights) and decided to make a blog post when I did not intend too. Last night I found (on Facebook) an old friend that I lost touch with about 4 yrs ago. I was rather excited to touch base with her again. I looked at her timeline and noticed a post she made recently about an anonymous pervert leaving unsavory messages where she works. It dawned on me that before I add her as a friend, that I better make sure she knows that I am not the anonymous pervert.
---Then I got to thinking, what about the rest of you? Do you think it's odd or shady that I am not using my real name on either my Twitter or Facebook profile? Do you automatically dismiss what i have to say because I keep my identity in the shadows?
My reasons for being anonymous were three fold. The first being, this is my pen name and I am writing a book. I prefer that my book be associated with my pen name and not myself. Both for privacy reasons, and for the following two reasons.
---Second is that I really don't want my place of employment to know that I am writing this book. My work is what enables me to fund this hobby. They are happy with the way I do my job and I am happy with the pay. I feel no need to expand my gender studies to work as I see no benefit. I will never be able to work en femme, and more likely I will have a superior that just doesn't understand.
---Lastly is my family. So I really don't care about most of my family knowing about Raine. We are flesh and blood and at the end of the day they better still love me no matter what. My parents are a different story though. They are both VERY religious and raised me to be so. That is probably the biggest reason why I grew up questioning my beliefs as I was being told what to believe. Regardless they will never ever understand or accept me living three months as a woman and would likely disown me. At their advanced age, this is not a obstacle I want to tackle.
---So let's make this clear. I am not a pervert hiding in the shadows. I do not have evil intentions. I am merely an explorer treading on new ground and sharing my experiences. When my book is complete and released, I will be more than happy to meet with everyone. Some of you already know ho I am, and I only ask you please keep that confidential on this account. I am also available to answer any questions you have, all you have to do is ask.

---Ciao for now! XOXOXOX

Thursday, January 9, 2014

Snowbound diets & a little Yin-Yang

---Good morning everyone!
---I am prepping to go to work after being home bound for the last 6 days. I suppose I cant complain as I spent the time exercising and working out and lost 6 lbs since Saturday. I am already feeling so much better and everything tastes so good when you dont eat as much. Oh the things I do so I can look good in that little black dress lol. I can also say that I always feel better when there is more balance between my genders. To much muggle makes me content, and to much femme makes me to hard headed.
---I got my business cards ordered for my book. I think this will make it easy for me when I am out and about for the 3 months I am living as Ginger. I will just whip out a card if I get an odd look and explain what it is I am doing. I also plan on carrying with me an Iconia tablet with Bluetooth keyboard and mouse and use it to document  experiences as they happen. I really need to start writing down my preparation experiences now. Not only is it diet and exercise, but it's compiling lists of things I will need to be Ginger for 3 months.Have you ever thought about how many things it would take you to live as someone of the other gender for 3 months? Kind of overwhelming isn't it?
---I am not doing this prep alone though. I have a personal shopper that will be assisting me with finding and purchasing any and all clothes/shoes/accessories I will need. I also will have a private hairdresser that will help me pick out 2 real hair wigs and teach me how to style and care for them. What more could a guy want? Thank you girls very much as I could never be successful at this without your help.
I am also waiting to hear feedback and comments from you all! I really hope to wake people up to the gender bias in our world and need your input/questions to drive my story line.

Have to run and get ready...XOXOXO

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Trading places preparation

Good morning!

Well here I am day 2 of my blog and I am still snowbound. Cabin Fever is a real thing as I am suffering from it. This is supposed top be a cheat day, a day I can eat what I want and not worry about it. Why is that a big deal? Well if I am going to do this living as a woman for 3 months thing, I'm going to have the body for it. That means I have been pounding the exercise routine very hard. In addition I am on a no-GMO diet (or as close as I can get)
As of this morning I have lost 24 lbs on this endeavor. I feel like 15 more lbs will get me to the point I can start shopping for clothes. Somewhere around that next 15 lb mark, I am buying a legitimate corset to assist with further weight loss and getting that girly figure I will need. I realize that almost all women don't wear corsets anymore. However I believe that a job worth doing is a job worth doing right. This means an hour glass figure is required and there is no better way to achieve one, especially when your body tends to store fat where the hourglass should be.

Skin care is another big area of need for becoming femme. Face it, girls put a lot of effort into their skin so they are both soft and supple and fresh for a coat of makeup. Everyday when I shower I am lotioning (hemp lotion) from forehead to toes. I just shaved my beard three days ago too so I could start caring for that part of my face. I intend to get a facial from @NewMoonSpaSalon in the Crescent Hotel in Eureka Springs.

Well I must go exercise now so I can eat a big burrito later. Love you all and hope you keep coming back to visit!

Ginger Raine

Monday, January 6, 2014

Living on the Other Side of the Gender Fence

Merry meet!
Well here I am in  front of the keyboard committing to a plan to live life as a woman for 3 months... one season. For the most part, I am an average guy. living in Eureka Springs Arkansas. I love baseball, kayaking, and traveling. The un-average part of me would be the part that does not conform to societal standards regarding gender. I believe that gender is not related to ones birth sex, and should be as easy to change as putting on a different pair of shoes. I'm not going to get into a deep discussion on this topic today as I will save it for another day.

So here is the plan: I pledge to live life as a woman for 3 months, document my experiences, and then write a book about it.

Let me make it clear, I am not doing this to win rights for the transgendered community. I am not an activist, nor a trailblazer. I am not a woman trapped in a mans body, nor do I seek sexual realignment surgery. I prefer my twig and berries right where they are thank you very much. My goal is very simple, experience life from a different viewpoint period. I am extremely interested to document peoples reactions to me in public.

My promise to you: I promise to give live updates of my day on Twitter @Raine_Ginger and less so on my Facebook account I also will make a daily blog post here on my non work days. Please ask any questions you may have and I will answer them all as quickly as I can. I will not reply to trolls and flaming remarks.

Well I am off to go exercise! I have a ton of preparations to complete before I actually start this little journey. Ciao for now!