Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Walking a mile in someone elses shoes

"You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view - until you climb into his skin and walk around in it." Atticus Finch, "To Kill a Mockingbird"





     I chose to push the envelope this weekend and it proved to be enlightening. I put the 'Fear of Man' behind me and tread into previously uncharted waters. Honestly doing this is more of a mental challenge that a physical one. What is it I did? I walked out the door one day wearing 4" stiletto tennis shoes and the next wearing flip flops with my toe nails painted a bright teal. The surprising thing? I wasn't nervous at all.
   One would assume that being out of ones comfort zone would cause some nervousness but alas, for me it wasn't true. We are all raised with a comfort zone. Clothes given to us that people wont laugh at or stare at. Some people don't fit the clothes they are given and get boob jobs or tummy tucks to fit in them. Women forcing their bodies to fit into women's clothes is considered acceptable. However men doing the same to fit into women's clothes is taboo. It's time we moved past that and I see encouraging signs that more progress has been made down that road that I expected.
   I had several wonderful conversation almost everywhere I went with people saying positive things about my shoes. Perhaps society isn't as stuck on gender norms as I anticipated. Oh I'm sure there were multiple passers by that thought I was some gay dude being overly flamboyant. But then again maybe the seed of change was planted in their minds. Gender expression is a choice after all. We are not cursed to dress one way for the rest of our lives just because we were born with an X chromosome or a Y. 
   Take time today to look at life from someone else's perspective. Who knows, maybe you will even enjoy what you see...
  

      To put it simply, I am NOT choosing to walk a mile in someone elses shoes, I am walking a mile in my shoes.
   

Monday, May 19, 2014

Temporarily AFK...




Hello everyone! No I am not dead, nor have I given up my quest to write my book about living as a woman. I got rather side tracked with a trip to Mexico that ate up all my time. I have to say it was VERY nice not to have to worry about being cold for a week. So without further ado, here are some recent details of my life ...

Countries visited: 1 (Mexico)
Sun tans acquired: 1
Nails broken: 0 (starting today)
Manicures received: 1 (With special thanks to Maria at New Moon Spa at the Crescent and all the great girls at the counter!)
Lbs gained/lost: +8 curse you Mexico and your free alcohol)
Diets restarted: 1
Funnest thing I did: Went grocery shopping in 4" stiletto's

I'm seriously thinking about getting a personal trainer to help me finish my conditioning before this fall. Time flies by fast enough without me procrastinating anymore. I'd LOVE to get questions from you all about anything related to my book writing quest. I have yet to receive a single one. Oh well I must go hop on my elliptical while I watch Vikings. Adios!

Link of the day: http://www.ifreebuy.ru/category-710-b0-min0-max0-attr-5-last_update-DESC.html





Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Corset training



The time has come! I have lost 37 lbs so far and am at a waist size that corset training is doable. So for those of you that have never worn a corset let me be the first to tell you that a real cinch down corset is the best diet aid there ever was. Way better than magical diet pills, or stomach surgery...why? Simple you are forced to eat very small meals because eating hurts. Pain is a great deterrent to stuffing your face.
Of course to corset train properly you have to wear it every minute of the day that you are not bathing or exercising. It takes commitment and perseverance. However the benefits will wow you when you start to see that hourglass shape and you can fit into clothes you never ever imagined you would be able to. 
So that being said my corset came last night. I did a LOT of researching to find a good quality made to order corset maker. After trying it on I am going to HIGHLY recommend them to anyone that may want one in the future. Mine is an underbust corset, also known as a waist cincher (Much like the image above). Mine is not made to wear on the outside as it's sole purpose is cinching, not fashion, so it is a simple black model. Sadly they have to be steam cleaned when the time comes to do so.

Bad Attitude Boutique - The Corset Store
953 East Sahara Ave # B-10
Las Vegas, NV 89104
 http://www.badattitude.com/

And here is the one I ordered...
http://www.badattitude.com/products.php?cat=Hidden

Since I start my workweek in 2 hrs, I will start corset training this Saturday. I will keep you all posted on my cinching progress. 

Raine
XOXOXO


Saturday, March 8, 2014

Down for the count


---Do you remember February? Well I don't. I had Bronchitis, followed directly by a viral infection of the corneas of my eyes that sent me to the emergency room. Then 3 nights later I caught type A flu and back to the emergency room again. That was followed by 3 days I don't even remember lying in a sickness induced coma like state and finally 3 weeks of recovery. I have not been that sick since I was a wee little lass.  Of course this story wouldn't be complete w/o drama at work. I thought for awhile that my work schedule would change drastically which would keep me from my plan. Needless to say February is a month that I would rather forget.
---So here we are in march. My illnesses are mostly behind me, I can see again, and the drama at work never happened.The damage was done however. It is far to late into the year for me to complete all the tasks I needed to start my 3 month stint as Raine in April.  Maybe in a way it's a bit of a relief because I had SOOO much to do and it will probably work out better to do it this autumn.
---So where to go from here? Start making a new plan of course. I intend to start my 3 months as Raine on Sept 15th now. This gives me plenty of time to get corset trained and lose some more weight (I have lost 35 lbs now!). Of course I have to finalize a wardrobe, makeup and everything else I will need as well. These 6 months will probably go by faster than I hope.
---All that being said I am still on course to follow through on my promises. I truly apologize for being so out of touch for so long. I would so very much like to get some feedback from you all. Feel free to ask questions, make comments, give me your opinions. I can't write this book without knowing the topics that people are interested in reading about. I need your help!
---Well I need to get to bed as the clock jumps forward tonight. I promise to make many many more posts in the days and weeks to come...

XXXOOO
 Raine

Thursday, January 30, 2014

The Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men...



---It appears I am not good at keeping promises. I really do have every intention of posting nearly daily on here. I am more focused than ever on my plan and authoring aspirations. However fate again has stepped in to let me know that it's her schedule I live by, not mine. That being said I have the flu. I came home from work Saturday morning with a temp of 101.6 and was shivering uncontrollably. After spending 3 days mostly in bed, I am again up among the living. However my nose is raw and I have a cough that wont stop.
---Good news? Well yes there is some. I am up to 28 lbs lost since I started, which leaves 20 lbs to my goal. I will probably be ordering my made to order corset in the next 10 lbs or so and am very excited. Want to lose weight? Wear a real corset 23 hours a day. I promise the lbs will shed away...
--- Also I plan on making a visit to make in the next couple of weeks. I am getting a makeover and hopefully wont be disappointed with the results. i am a little weary that age may have caught up with me and that I will be embarrassing myself by dolling up and going out. I never could pass it public, as 99% of men that try, however I do have a gender neutral face and no adams apple, so I wasn't a joke either. It will be a big day in my decision to proceed with this plan. Actually it's the only thing that will stop me now.
---Bad news? It's going to snow again, and again, and again... 5 times supposedly in the next 7 days. Never in my life have I wished for a winter to end like I have this one. It's been to cold for too long. Not to mention it's a bitch keeping shaved when you get goose pimples every time you take your clothes off. Oh well, that's a story for another day...

XOXOXO
Raine

Sunday, January 19, 2014

25 lbs and a broken truck



---I must apologize for the long time between posts. I will say that I had a work week in there, but I could have made a couple of posts. The big thing that happened was my truck broke down. I tend to obsess on such things and spent 2 days working on it (which means I wasn't focused on training). Of course I was expecting the worst... a big repair bill. Happily the cost of repair was only $60 so I am rather pleased.
---In other news I reached the 25 lbs lost goal!! This of course is no small feat. When one starts dieting and exercising, it seems like the end goal can never be achieved. I have an end goal of 46 lbs (I know it's an odd number, but it has meaning to me) which is a chunk of weight. I now believe I can make the last 21 lbs, and do so by last spring.
---I hope to do some shopping this week, and will report on my haul when I finish with it. Until then, have a great day!

Raine
XOXOXO

Sunday, January 12, 2014

Soooo women wear pants...


---Why shouldn't men be able to wear skirts? Oh and top of the day to you! I hope you are having a great day. This is a topic near and dear to my heart, I hope you enjoy the read. 

 ---Prior to the middle of the 20th century, women had a very limited wardrobe of dresses and skirts. Women had a certain image that they were expected to obtain. Pants weren’t even an option for them during this time period because trousers were for men. Women were expected to wear corsets, which reduced their waist size so much that many were unable to breathe and often fainted. This was considered feminine, and females wore these to distinguish themselves from men. This was the culture of the 1800s. The way that women dressed during this time made them appear to be like dolls, and came across as fragile. Women were perceived as helpless females in frilly dresses, while men were strong and wore masculine pants. Women spent hours getting ready and would put on multiple layers of skirts.  Floor length skirts which picked up debris and constantly got dirty were what females were forced to deal with on a daily basis. Women would have to wear girdles, and hoop skirts, and clothes that weren't too revealing. Petticoats, frilly slips worn under skirts, were yet another hassle in the daily dress for women. Fashion at this time was by no means about comfort, which is partially a reason why women yearned to wear pants.  They were much more convenient, comfortable, and easier to wear than multiple layers of skirts.  At this time, corsets and skirts were feminine and distinctly separated women from men. Women couldn't wear trousers because that would portray females to be almost as equal as males.         
   
--- This simple piece of clothing has caused much controversy for women over the years. The social and technological changes of the 20th century propelled the movement of it being acceptable for women to wear pants. The act of wearing pants itself is a form of technology because wearing trousers makes almost any task easier than doing the same task in a skirt or dress. The revolution of women wearing pants is important because it traces the history of equality between men and women. This nonverbal communication of clothing changed dramatically when women regularly began wearing pants in the middle to late 1900s. Before the twentieth century, women were technically not allowed to wear pants because it was a masculine item, and they were looked down upon if they decided to wear them. It wasn't until the Second World War that women began wearing trousers out in public, but it still wasn't widely accepted. Finally in the 1960s, society decided that it was about time for it to be socially acceptable for women to wear pants.

---Only it didn't start equality between men and women. Women can still wear skirts, yet men can not wear them. Women can dress as they please, men can not. And please don't use the argument that women's clothes are made to fit their bodies. Like no woman ever stuffed her bra or got breast implants. No women ever wore a padded brief to fill out those jeans. No woman ever wore a corset to get that hourglass shape. 

---Any reasonably enlightened or even logical person should be able to see that there is no good reason why women are ‘allowed’ to wear skirts and men aren't. If you accept that a woman wearing trousers is perfectly normal and acceptable, then what possible objection could you raise to a man wearing a skirt? I think most people accept this argument, accept that people should be free to wear whatever they want, but they still feel the need to qualify this by saying “but I think it looks stupid/*I* wouldn't do it/I find it unattractive when men do”. Reaction to a man wearing a skirt is different to our reaction to a woman wearing one. I've been wondering why that is and I can’t help but feel that it has something do with a residual attachment to illogical norms, despite our professed enlightenment. Women wanting to dress like men is acceptable and understandable, but men wanting to dress like women is perverse and nonsensical. It’s put forward best by Lauren O in this thread:
I think it’s perhaps more likely that it’s easier for society to accept women taking on men’s roles than it is for men to take on women’s roles because women are seen as inferior. A woman wanting to take on men’s roles seems less offensive, because, the reasoning goes, who wouldn't want to be a member of the superior sex? A man wanting to take on women’s roles seems more offensive, because what man would ever want to degrade himself like that?
--- Pants weren't an option to women not that long ago. Your choice of clothes should not be tied to your birth sex. Women have been able to overcome the  gender barriers and win the right to wear whatever they please too... and no one bats an eye. I for one have no plans on waiting for the male gender revolution. I will wear what I want, and not care if you dislike it. However I hope that you do... =)

Raine XOXOXO